I confess .... I do that, occasionally. SoCô¿ôL Bob is not impervious to "criticism," and/or I am not unaware that I have my faults ... some in my own eyes and some in the eyes of others.
But, this confession may not be as dramatic as you think. The "SoCô¿ôL Comments on Sexual Harassment" Pages have been getting a tremendous number of "hits." AND ... I confess, I don't know why?
Care to tell me? How do you happen to be visiting the SoCô¿ôL Comments on Sexual Harassment? From whence you came? and why? Anything else you think might be of interest? May I publish your response?
To: firstname.lastname@example.org From: LOVEBARBIE@AOL.com (Chris) Subject: When Sexual Harassment is done by the President of the Company Below is the result of your feedback form. It was submitted by Chris (LOVEBARBIE@AOL.com) body: So what do you do when the sexual harasser is the President of the Company? There is no way to make a complaint. All you can do is tell him to stop. But in my situation he hasn't, and it is not only me, but all the females of the company. His mouth is vulgar, his gestures are suggestive and unprofessional, his actions are disgusting! He knows that women of the company have complained, but he doesn't see it. He just keeps on doing it. He has made vulgar, unprofessional remarks through the > years, touches when he shouldn't, takes about "broads" in the hallway with the other men, uses the "f" word as daily practice in about 50% of the sentences that come out of his mouth. He has stuck his tongue in another woman's ear, asked her to fool around, etc. He has given me a provocative calendar of half naked women for a Christmas gift, when he gave all the other women something else. He doesn't stop, and this situation is unique because he owns the company. Everyone is aware of his actions, but he keeps getting away with it. I am the only female has seemed to fight him on this, and because of it I have suffered through the years working there. I am also the only female in a management position at the company. > Should he be stopped by someone? Will this hurt my career in the future if I report him or sue? > > Dear Chris . This strikes me as an EXCELLENT QUESTION. Without being too lengthy,presumptive or conclusive ... let me remind you and other SoCô¿ôL visitors that I, at least, always hesitate to 'trust' totally what I recieve from AOL subscribers, HotMail Addresses and others .. cause it's so ... incognito. Not that you should have to reveal yourself to me .. or be identified .. in order to participate with this or any other intelligent comment or question.Nor should I make any assumptions or conclusions about the address, LOVEBARBIE@AOL.com ô¿ô In giving my answer to the question, I should much prefer to have it considered as at least partially .. brainstorming .. the suggestion of one possible answer .. not necessarily the best possible answer. I will publish your question and perhaps, the best of SoCô¿ôL's responses. There is no way to make a complaint. My understanding of the current law governing sexual harassment would suggest quite the opposite. There is a way to make a complaint. A complaint that has tremendous power, including the force of law, and civil damages.Whether that choice or these consequences should exist, it would certainly appear that they do. Assuming the facts you present are true, and can be demonstrated, or even threatened to be demonstrated, one would guess that any number of attorneys might be anxious to speak with you. You know Chris .. I am concerned about both of you ... your boss and yourself, and the rest of the people who work there. I am concerned that the various misunderstandings that seperate people may continue to seperate you all ... and continue the problem in some other form. I am concerned that this same boss may have some other genuinely positive qualities, that his perception of correct and incorrect, polite and impolite, may come from another generation ... another experience .. and that he might be harmed or ignored in the process of coming up with the IDEAL SOLUTION. But then, my own experience, since Im not terribly shy, demonstrates that it may be very difficult to get even two people on the same page on the subject of employer/employee, let alone a group. I do think, you, for your part, in order to come up with the correct solution,should ASK yourself the question .. what do I want to achieve ... what are the best ways I can think of, given all you know, to proceed to attempt to achieve them, and then make your move .. preparing as you can for the worst possible consequences, while acting in a way, as best you can, that appears to lead to the best possible solution. This may, indeed, given your rights, and the current law, involve seeking the additional assistance of an attorney. This hopefully would result, at the appropriate time, with a presentation that includes an additional statement of the problem, to the employer, a suggestion for appropriate action, and perhaps, some potential consequences. Do I believe your career will be hurt if you approach this problem honestly, as objectively as possible, and with maximum consideration of the potential benefit to everyone ... NO. There may be some temporary consequence to you in terms of this job .. this industry .. this town etc. ... but you might also become all that more valuable to some other good employer, including your current competitors. On The Subject of SEXUAL HARASSMENT